Feminism is a touchy subject for me, mostly because of the state of modern first-world feminism. Last year the Ban Bossy campaign was launched – a PSA video with celebrities such as Beyonce, Jane Lynch, and Jennifer Garner claiming that they were oppressed by being called bossy, and that the word must be banned in true Orwellian fashion to preserve the delicate natures of other women.
It’s a little insulting to suggest that women are so weak that they cannot overcome the torture of name-calling. Further to that, the PSA’s logic turns on itself when one realizes that all these supposed oppressed-by-the-word-bossy women are in fact stars of international fame, with more influence on society than I will ever have. I guess I should have been called bossy on the playground at school more.
At about the same time this campaign was launched, the Iraqi parliament was considering passing a law that would legalize marital rape and child marriage for Shia population. I don’t recall seeing any multi-million dollar PSAs advocated by Beyonce decrying this outright violation of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.
While partners of Ban Bossy (Citibank, Bank of America, JP Morgan & Chase and dozens of internationally branded corporations) were screaming that somebody please think of the children by banning a word, Shia girls were actually being oppressed and no one was doing shit about it.
Perhaps you’re growing to understand why I dislike being associated with the feminist movement.
Other heavy influences on my disdain for modern feminists are their disdain for the male gender, traditional gender roles (fuck you, I happen to like cooking, shaving, and wearing makeup), or anyone who disagrees with or has criticisms of their movement.
Amanda Palmer, punk-cabaret musician and major role model for me, posted the following after being called out for showing her husband affection in public. It perfectly encapsulates what I think real feminism should be, instead of the man-hating, gender role-defying, over-sensitive mass of bullshit that we’re left with today. Because feminism is about owning who you are without limitation or definition.